“Above all, don’t lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect for himself and for others. And having no respect he ceases to love.” ― Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Brothers Karamazov

 That was a good rumination today.




  1. An excellent rumination to be sure. Hard to go wrong with the great Russian authors in this regard.

    Lying to oneself is an impossible bind. In that sense, it’s a little easier to avoid if one knows the cost.

    But avoiding the lie implies that there is a truth being denied.

    The challenge for me—and I’m going through it with regard to my work right now—is in the “not knowing”. I’m at my worst when I just don’t know what to do. And then I find myself piling on with “I really should be smart enough to know what to do.”

    So the challenge that I see in not lying to oneself is in knowing one’s truth. About some things, this seems very easy for me. About others, and at various times, it is much harder.

    And I think I’m not very good at living with “not knowing.”

  2. Very true Steve. Most people are very good at living with “not knowing.” ..A keen sense of self awareness is a hard commodity to find these days!

    There seems to be that moment when we have a sliver of reality or truth presented, but it is somewhat shy…

    In the moment, while the truth and the lie battle for pole position, wI know I can also be very good at justifying my movement towards the lie and make it look and sound very “truthful”

    Self awareness is hard work!

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