episode 8: dayenu, russians and really good wine

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There is this great word, Dayenu, it is powerful but before we talk about Dayenu we need to talk about the Passover which will lead us to some observations about russians and tie it all together with a conversation about good wine. All this to point out that God is giving us an invitation for exodus…to know and experience grace more deeply, but the path can be hard sometimes.

21 Great Books To Read In 2018

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More books and less binge-watching will transform your life!

The following books are in no particular order and speak to various areas of thought. From fiction to faith, I would encourage you to read widely and discerningly. Most people today read within a small circle of authors that they like and agree with. If you are only reading authors who think like you, there is limited growth happening in your soul. Read authors who come at things differently, think differently and even believe differently. Release your fear, you are stronger and more discerning than you think, and who knows, you just might gain some new insights or see things from a different perspective.

  1. The Go-Giver
  2. Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End
  3. Misreading Scripture With Western Eyes: Removing Cultural Blinders to Better Understand the Bible
  4. Sabbath As Resistance
  5. Tip and the Gipper: When Politics Worked
  6. The Beggar King and the Secret of Happiness: A True Story
  7. Why You Think The Way You Do: The Story of Western Worldviews From Rome to Home
  8. Ruthless Trust: The Ragamuffin’s Path to God
  9. Man’s Search For Meaning
  10. 1984
  11. Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
  12. A Prayer For Owen Meany: A Novel
  13. The Sparrow
  14. How God Became King: The Forgotten Story of the Gospels
  15. As A Man Thinketh
  16. Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking
  17. Pilgrims Progress
  18. Eager To Love: The Alternative Way of Francis of Assisi
  19. Disunity In Christ
  20. The Crucifixion of the Warrior God: Volumes 1 & 2
  21. Devotions: The Selected Poems of Mary Oliver

I’d love to hear what books have and are impacting you!

Please leave your recommendations in the comments.

21 Tips For An Amazing 2018

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Hope smiles from the threshold of the year to come, whispering, ‘It will be happier.’
~Alfred Lord Tennyson

Every January is a divine gift of newness. No matter what the previous year brought into your life, a new year is a grace gift where you are reminded that it is possible to author a new chapter, paint on a fresh canvas, or sing a new melody.

It has been said,  “You can’t fix a problem with the same thinking that created it.” So, here are 21 practices that will clear the way to engage and create a greater future and present.

  1. Start each day with 10 minutes of meditation and/or prayer.
  2. Refuse to check your electronic devices until you have centered your soul after you wake up.
  3. Before you leave your home, ask God to make you a blessing to someone each day.
  4. Talk less, listen more. Pause and think before you respond to make sure you are truly listening to the other person, perhaps you will choose to respond far less.
  5. Commit to writing down at least one gratitude a day in a journal before you go to sleep. This will help you wake with gratefulness and less stress.
  6. Practice the ancient art of smiling every day, your soul will thank you.
  7. Own your mistakes and say “I’m sorry” quickly when you blow it.
  8. Ask yourself why you respond the way you do to people’s behaviors before you respond. I call this a moment of holy curiosity. Your reactions tell you more about you than you realize.
  9. Exercise a little every day, even if it is a few short walks during your day.
  10. Determine to get 8 hours of sleep each night, “game-changer alert!”
  11. Consider a Whole-30 type diet, eliminating sugary food and drinks.
  12. Drink water-water-water, half your body weight in ounces. Water is life.
  13. Grow in your generosity. Donate to charities and humanitarian groups that work to eliminate poverty. I’d recommend http://www.planetchanger.org  🙂
  14. Read a book every month. I like Sacred Space 🙂 I will be posting my list of recommended reads soon!
  15. Write down your top 3 goals. Post them where you can see them. Do one thing each day that connects to those goals.
  16. Choose kindness over rightness
  17. Choose grace over judgmentalism (pull that log out of your eye!)
  18. Choose to assume positive intent towards others when things get dicey.
  19. Limit your screen time. Break your smartphone addiction. You don’t need it in the bedroom. Turn it off, and check it in and leave it alone! You’ll be okay I promise. In fact, you’ll be better.
  20. Learn to say “NO” Life is full of many good things that keep you from the best things. Does the opportunity align with your top 3 goals? If it doesn’t just say no,
  21. Love. Pray daily that you motivation which fuels your actions would flow from love and compassion.

Grace and Peace to you in 2018

Monty

 

Complicit…Complacent…Convicted…Confused

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I am rarely the first person to fire off words that speak to a current issue. I often wish I were, I wonder how some people are able to articulate so well and so quickly when chaos strikes.

I’m a processor, I want to say the right things well. I’m a researcher, I don’t want to contribute to a rhetoric swamp of misinformation or wrong information. I’m a “do-er” and I want to figure out what doing looks like in a particular context so as not to simply add more words without action.

On a sad but true note, the length of the current news cycle lasts about as long as a tweet. I have been around long enough to know that Americans can get really-really in-your-face passionate about something and then be off onto something else when a more sparkly tweet arrives, often within an hour of their initial outrage. So the teaching of “pearls before swine” comes to mind.

This past weekend I was leading a three-day retreat at Mount Angel Abbey. At this retreat we work through some powerful rhythms from my book Sacred Space in order to live a free-er, less divided and more God-centric life.

I limit my cell/wifi use during these time to what is necessary for getting files from Dropbox and other searches for images needed etc. This past weekend when I turned my iPhone on, news alerts started coming though. An altercation had just happened in #Charlottesville. My breaking news updates only noted that something had gone south (pun intended) with White Nationalists while holding a demonstration.

I made a quick assumption about what the term “White Nationalist” meant, but I had honestly not encountered that designation for the group of people it designates. To me, “White Nationalists” sanitizes the putrid ideology espoused by these groups, and there are many of them.

According to the Southern Poverty Law Center:

White nationalist groups espouse white supremacist or white separatist ideologies, often focusing on the alleged inferiority of nonwhites. Groups listed in a variety of other categories – Ku Klux Klan, neo-Confederate, neo-Nazi, racist skinhead, and Christian Identity – could also be fairly described as white nationalist.

The SPLC also noted that in 2016 there were 48 active White Nationalist groups in the United states. You can see the list and which states they are located here.

When I returned home from Sacred Space, I started searching the news feeds in order to find out what happened. To be candid, I was also fearful of what embarrassing, self-serving and potentially dangerous tweet might have come from our POTUS. In true form our POTUS created more havoc with three diverging messages that lacked crisis leadership skills, purposeful language, integrity, and the sense that he had any understanding of the complexity of the situation (imho). Daily, he continues to reveal that there is a twelve-year-old running the world right now, and that should concern everyone.

Images of confederate flags and angry white men filled my screen, a car careening into a crowd of people, a helicopter somehow was co-opted and crashed, people were allowed to demonstrate with clubs and shields…huh?  The end result, death, carnage, terror.

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The spark that supposedly created this opportunity of protest and violent demonstration was about removing a statue of General Lee, but the real reason is hatred, ignorance, racism and bigotry.

It seems that we tend to fall into four camps around issues like this (although I am sure there are more). The camps of the Complicit, the Complacent, the Convicted, and the Confused.

COMPLICIT

We are not only complicit when we actively involve ourselves in the hate, bigotry and racist world by believing and participating in it, but we are also complicit when we disagree and stay out of the dialog or refuse to engage in necessary actions to end it.

I am complicit in another way.

I grew up hearing stories about my family. They migrated North after the Civil War from the South. We were Southerners originally. I also heard the stories of how the Red Leg Union soldiers killed my distant great-great uncles who were Bushwhackers and Confederates, and how, although my family owned slaves, we were good to them.

That is a hard pill to swallow, and it takes some creative and quick maneuvering to try to justify human enslavement…yes I am, my family has been, complicit.

For this, I repent for my families history, and I, more than most, need to speak into  conversation condemning it, calling it out, and working to end it. Becoming “Color-blind” doesn’t help. That term is an arrogant statement that misunderstands the complex dynamics of race issues. Rather, we need to see all Color, acknowledge our diversity and work towards love, understanding and the elimination of labels and divisions. I want to see my friends of color in all their beauty and not “white-wash” the world with a false sense equal superiority if you follow my meaning.

So as a white, male, pastor of an Evangelical church I ask for forgiveness and condemn any an all action of this kind as un-christian and in direct opposition to the dream that this country can become.

COMPLACENT

The Complicit tribe has a twin tribe named Complacent. We are complacent when we know something is wrong then stand by silently doing nothing. I am not intoning that you have to grab a counter-protest sign and start a march, but I am saying that you need to do –something.

  • Determine to choose love, and then offer it everyone you encounter…
  • Determine to read  books and stories that give a different perspective…
  • Determine to gain a better understanding of the issues, and share them…
  • Determine to name this what it is, bringing light to the darkness…
    • This is racism, bigotry, hatred, evil, terrorism, anti-christian, anti-moral, wicked, disgusting, un-american, divisive, ignorance…and so many more adjectives.
  • Determine to seek out ways to change our current story, by involvement…
  • Determine to pray for beauty, justice, love and equality to fill the earth…
  • Pray that injustice, evil, bigotry, and racism would end…

Or another way to put it is:

“The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.” Edmund Burke

CONVICTED

The Convicted are the activists amongst us speaking out quickly, and moving to action. The Convicted don’t always know what they should do, but the fire in their soul tells them that they must do something.

Sometimes the something is good and beautiful and changing…but sometimes it creates more chaos. Sometimes right motives have poor choices. Another way to put it is, “the ends do not always justify the means.”

For the Christian, Jesus turned vengeance and retaliation upside down through destroying violence on the cross…His followers are to fight with different weapons, lives of sacrifice and grace and humility. This is hard, but should cause us to pause and look for ways to respond to hate without hate.

Today I choose the path of love over hate…

CONFUSED

The fourth group is the Confused. This world keeps spinning into a dark mess that leaves many stuck in neutral because they don’t know how to move forward. The problems are so extremely complex and global that simple binary responses are simply inadequate..

The current rhetoric is so polemic and divisive that many have no desire to get hit with the verbal shrapnel that comes whenever you state your opinion. There is fear of being unfriended…fear of some troll attacking you…fear of the cost of getting involved…fear of being labeled in such a way that your tribe will cast you out which also means fear of a loss of identity and security.

All these fears lead to confusion which leads to complacency which ultimately lead to complicity through non-action.

The way forward is to choose to grow in love, understanding, action, and honesty until the evil of racism is gone.

 

 

The Gift of Awareness

If you are like me, there have been times where you have given God the Judas kiss; cast greedy lots for holy garments; or horded divine manna out of fear God may withhold His blessings…

I’ve been the Prodigal Son covered in the dirt of my choices; Eaten the tempters-fruit turned brown in the heat of the sun; and, like Ananias and Saphira, held back wealth while looking benevolent.

When God gives you the gift of awareness, revealing who you really are, and then cascades His love and acceptance over you (even though the real you has been discovered) is alarming and incongruent.

We expect the axe…We expect the torrent of angry words…We expect the reproach of angry gods…but,

God is waiting in the pregnant moment of possibility with words of mercy, grace and acceptance that scatters the old stories aside, swept up in a divine rip-tide of forgiveness and tenderness unexpected, fierce and freeing.

Brennan Manning captures this in his book, A Glimpse of Jesus, where he writes:

To live in the wisdom of accepted tenderness is to let go of cares and concerns, to stop organizing means to ends and simply be in each moment of awareness as an end in itself…We can embrace our whole life story in the knowledge that we have been graced and made beautiful by the providence of our past history. All the wrong turns in the past, the detours, mistakes, moral lapses, everything that is irrevocably ugly or painful, melts and dissolves in the warm glow of accepted tenderness. As theologian Kevin O’Shea writes, “One rejoices in being unfrightened to be open to the healing presence, no matter what one might be or what one might have done.
~Brennan Manning; A Glimpse of Jesus

You are loved in this moment…hold onto that.